#TAGtribe Blog – Thank you Howard Mayes


Today we are inspired to offer a few words for our friend and TAGtribe member Howard Mayes.

We have just got back from saying goodbye to Howard, over 300 people attended Howard’s funeral, many had travelled from across the UK and postponed meetings and made time to pay their respects to this remarkable man. 

Howard suddenly passed away over the Christmas period. The inspiration for this blog comes from the amount of poignant comments people have made on line and in person, even people that only knew him a little bit.

In January 2011 it is astounding the number of people in a room that Howard has put in touch or introduced to that group – the best part? You would never know he had. Howard got things done quietly and gently he was dedicated, trustworthy & indispensable. He was a linchpin in many of the groups he took part in and contributed to; also there are companies and partnerships thriving today as a result of Howard’s introduction.

It was delightfully hard to have a conversation with Howard without him glowing with pride about his family, something many have commented on. This also was present in the loyalty he showed in his other relationships.

Howard was particularly thoughtful, by listening to others he was able to work out how best to help you, if he had not have listened and remembered so well he would have not known how to help you!

Howard valued other people’s relationships, he would not introduce everyone to everyone instead he would put you in touch with the right person and this was not always for business, often it was something accurate and personal (or golf)! 

This very loveable guy was an essential and yet very humble connecter who set a standard, acted very true to his self with gentle wisdom that avoided the cheap laugh or the quick sell at another person’s expense. Instead Howard always had a realistic suggestion, example or direction that you might move in or was ready to learn something new with you; this was a result of his experience and authentic love for other people and life.

Thank you Howard – for everything. 


5 thoughts on “#TAGtribe Blog – Thank you Howard Mayes”

  1. Howard was much loved, as was evident by the number of people who turned out to pay their respects to him on Monday. Right now he’ll be networking his way to some higher place, giving back more than he took and befriending those around him out of a pure love of humanity. The famous poem by Leigh Hunt sums him up for me – pay special attention to the final verse – simply substitute Howard’s name for that of its namesake Abou Ben Adhem;

    Abou Ben Adhem (may his tribe increase!)
    Awoke one night from a deep dream of peace,
    And saw, within the moonlight in his room,
    Making it rich, and like a lily in bloom,
    An angel writing in a book of gold:—
    Exceeding peace had made Ben Adhem bold,
    And to the Presence in the room he said
    “What writest thou?”—The vision raised its head,
    And with a look made of all sweet accord,
    Answered “The names of those who love the Lord.”
    “And is mine one?” said Abou. “Nay, not so,”
    Replied the angel. Abou spoke more low,
    But cheerly still, and said “I pray thee, then,
    Write me as one that loves his fellow men.”

    The angel wrote, and vanished. The next night
    It came again with a great wakening light,
    And showed the names whom love of God had blessed,
    And lo! Ben Adhem’s name led all the rest.

  2. Speaking to many people today it’s clear that Howard had that very special ability to connect with everyone he met and an inexhaustable energy for helping people. Clearly, he loved people and, as evidenced by the packed church today, they loved him. I am still finding connections as I speak to people about Howard and it is apparent he brought together a huge number of people.
    Lots of people claim to be great networkers, tell others how to do it, make a lot of noise about how they do it. Howard just got on with it in his quiet, diligent, caring way. I reckon he knocked the lot of them into a cocked hat. He will be greatly missed but will live on as an inspiration to us all.

  3. I met Howard about a dozen times, normally at networking events. He was a very engaging, likeable person and he will be sorely missed. RIP.

  4. I can sum up Howard with a simple story that happened just a few weeks ago, I introduced a very good friend of mine to Howard in the hope that Howard would offer some advice and guidance to a new business venture that my friend was embarking upon. In true Howard fashion business was done and the two were due to work together this year. Once the meeting had concluded the very minute my friend was able to ring me he did and this is what he said. ‘ Kevin, i cant thank you enough, i have just met the most likelable, charismatic, helpful and thoughtful guy, I cant believe how much i have taken from our meeting, I am so exited, i cant thank you enough’
    I think that says it all really, you will be sadly missed my friend but as stated befor never forgotten

  5. Howard was a true inspiration as a man in both business and life, all those that turned up to pay their last respects showed just how much of a loved person this man truly was. Our thoughts are with his family, a hole feels like it has appeared within the circle of friends that Howard hass helped bring together, this blog shows just how much of a hole there really is. Now gone and missed, but not forgotten.

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